Changing Your Attitude
I discovered something that you may find surprising – There is very little in this world that I can change. I cannot change the weather. I cannot predict the lottery numbers, nor can I tell you what women are thinking. I can’t fly...leap tall buildings...or see through clothes (all childhood dreams). I cannot change whether my boss is a continuous pain, or whether the people who work for me are either (btw – they’re not). I cannot change Wall Street; the Government; taxes; same-sex marriages; cancer; immigration laws; or Lance Armstrong’s drug tests. The one thing I have total control over and can change is my attitude....
- Our greatness lies not so much in being able to remake the world as being able to remake ourselves. – Mahatma Gandhi
Almost four years ago I suffered some bouts of dizziness and would experience numbness on my whole left side. After trips to the doctor, exams, tests, MRIs, scans etc... they determined that I had experienced multiple TIA’s (transient ischemic attacks) – or as they are more commonly known.. mini-strokes. It was during this time of multiple rounds of tests and facing the unknown that I stumbled onto something that changed my life. It wasn’t a new drug; nor Zen meditation or some other Far Eastern philosophy; and it certainly wasn’t mushrooms or other stimulants. I changed my attitude, and you can too. I simply decided to stop walking on eggshells every day worrying about those test; fearful of the future; and stressing about what might happen. In one enlightened moment I simply chose to be “sassy” instead of “sad”.... “forceful” instead of “fearful”. I stopped letting my condition, my environment, or my fears drive and control my attitude. And that change carried over into my work life and my family life too.
- If you don’t like something change it: if you can’t change it, change the way you think about it. – Mary Engelbreit
Think about all the things you cannot control. I am not saying to give up trying or pursuing improving the world. I mean that you need to look at yourself honestly and stop being pessimistic when things don’t go your way. Don’t set unreasonable expectations for yourself or those around you. Especially your kids. If work is causing you stress, your family is not the cause for your pain and will not understand you having a piss-poor attitude around them. Choose to change yourself.
- Happiness mainly comes from our own attitude, rather than from external factors. – Dalai Lama
Make a dedicated effort to look on the bright side and have a positive attitude. Sure you are going to get down and sometimes life really sucks. Accept it but choose proactively how you want to respond to life’s little daily lemons. Working your way through life, school, work or family is all about choices. You and only you own how you choose to react to things.
- “The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company... a church... a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past... we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you... we are in charge of our Attitudes.” – Charles Swindoll
So as you struggle with whatever demons are driving your attitude, don’t let them grab the wheel and drive your bus. Dismiss them and move on to a new perspective – and a new attitude.
- Be honest with yourself
- Understand what is causing you to take on a bad attitude
- Let it go. Unburden yourself of carrying that negative weight.
- Change your perspective of the situation
- Choose another attitude
- “The easiest way to win a tug of war is to simply let go of the rope” - MikeC