Making time for your Kids

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Developing a strategy for becoming a better dad can sound like a big joke. To use the term “busy dad” in the current world is really an understatement.  A lot of us dads have a difficult time trying to balance our professional or personal demands against spending valuable time with the wife and kids too.  Just because your schedule is tight should not mean that you are destined to fail as a parent.  As a father, you need to learn better time management to help you stay connected with your children. It is obvious that parenthood doesn’t come with instructions – but there are some key approaches that you can use to your advantage.  Raising great kids in these busy times is not impossible....just time consuming. 

USING YOUR CALENDAR - Statistics have shown that fathers who are concerned about (and involved with) their kids’ activities both at school and home, earn their children’s respect, love and trust.  As a busy dad trying to “do it all”, I started by using my appointment calendar and noting my kids social outings, events and even when to have home-cooked dinner with my family. The point was that if I can schedule multiple meetings; trips, or other business commitments, why not better plan my quality time with the kids?  I may not be able to make it to all the calendar’d events, but by doing rotation between my kids dance recitals, movie nights, or even engaging them in a soccer game, I found it to be more rewarding for all of us.  Plus just knowing about their activities and expressing an interest scores big points too.

SMALL TALK - In most cases I bonded with my kids more when I had spontaneous conversation with them as compared to only working in scheduled activities.  Sometimes work and school schedules may mismatch, and the only time the kids might be seeing you is when they are arriving home from school while you are getting ready for the night shift.  This short time can be beneficial to both you and your child if you give them your undivided attention when such opportunity arises.  When your children realize you are not giving them full attention, or suspects that you are not concentrating on their conversation, they will lose trust and respect in you.  If you are good in listening and can communicate properly with the kids, you will be successful as a parent – if even for those brief random moments between the mad rush of daily life.  Your child’s feelings, views and opinions are real to them.  So, if you listen and discuss openly things like friendship, school work or peer pressure, it will assure your kids that you care about them and this will give them a sense of worth.

If your kids can see that you can do your job without compromising your opportunities to be with them, you are demonstrating how to be a responsible adult and parent.  This can also inspire your children with life lessons which they can apply later on when they become parents too.

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